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Friday, May. 04, 2018 - 7:52 p.m.

Random story from my mom:
A couple of her neighbors picked her up from the bus station last week. She decides she will take them out to lunch to thank them. Day of, one calls and says her back is hurting (she has chronic back issues). Then the other said she wouldn’t go because it had been planned as a 3 person thing and she don’t want to go if the other person wasn’t going. Mom got all huffy and told her, “Well fine, I’ll just go by myself then!”. (In a way clearly designed to convey that she was mad and trying to make the other person feel guilty about bailing). She then talked about how they haven’t played cards together in months, the first person keeps making excuses for why she can’t come play cards.

It doesn’t seem to have occurred to her that they simply don’t enjoy her company very much for some reason. They are sending her loud and clear signals that they don’t, and she keeps inviting them to stuff (stuff they can’t really decline gracefully, like the “thank you” lunch). But her point of view seems to be that they are simply rude and inconsiderate and not very sociable.

She loves having friends and talking to people. I feel kind of bad for her that this is happening.

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